Why is texting one of the greatest tools for flirting and building attraction?

Well, let’s think about what’s involved in creating attraction with someone in the real world. Your smile, smell, confidence, words, timing, clothes, breath, witty remarks, on-the-spot flirting, and the list goes on and on. These are what I call attraction triggers. In the real world, you have to account for every attraction trigger or else you will be unsuccessful in your dating. So if you want to make your dating life easier, you need to start eliminating as many of these attraction triggers as you can. The less attraction triggers you have to deal with the better your chances of being successful in creating attraction and intrigue. Text messaging does just that… it eliminates the majority of the attraction triggers. The only attraction triggers you need to account for are words and timing, and that’s it. If you text the right words at the right time, you can expect to triple or double your success in dating. I’ve seen this happen hundreds of times.

Flirting is the key to getting the ball rolling in the right direction. It’s the unnecessary, but crucial part in building attraction. One of your main purposes when texting is to flirt. I’m going to share with you the 3 most important laws that you must follow whenever you are flirting in your flirty text messages.

Law #1 - Building Suspense - the 10-minute rule

Building suspense is easy and it’s incredibly effective. It amplifies the sexual tension in your flirty text messages. I usually teach this by saying, "never text a women within ten minutes of a vulnerable message." If she sends a text messages that makes her vulnerable such as, "ya I’ll come over, what time?" or "what are you doing tonight?" you will see better results if you keep her in this uneasy (vulnerable) position for 10 minutes before letting her know everything is cool.

Sending an instant text messages when a deal is being closed is basically saying, "yes, yes, yes please hang out with me!" If you place a pause before closing the deal, then you are just giving a signal that you are important or you had to weigh your options before choosing. Whatever the interpretation is, there is going to be a stronger sexual connection between you two.

Law #2 - Keep it light, fun and un-needy

You’re probably very fond of the stressful feeling of trying to send the right text message to someone you like?!? You’ve also probably sent text messages and immediately after sending them, you thought of something that would have been better to send, right? That’s because you cared way too much about what you were sending and it came across in your message. If you relax, and truly understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea, then you will send light and fun messages that don’t say, "please write back, i need you!!!"

Law #3 - Send Flirty Text Messages NOT Friendship Text Messages

Words are the most powerful influence in anyone’s life. It determines where you stand in any relationship and how strong that relationship is going to be. Now, I can’t just give you a bunch of words to text because it would take a lot more than just an article to explain everything (However, if you want a ton of proven text messages that work you should definitely get the eBook "The Ultimate Texting Guide." It teaches you exactly what to text to be successful with women.)

I can give you some flirting tips to get you moving in the right direction and help you construct better flirty text messages. Start by always keeping in mind: send messages that build attraction not friendship. This is the area where most men fail. It comes from a history of sending a ton of text messages to friends and few to the women they want. This basically puts a man in friendship auto pilot and the women you want end up getting your classic messages that make her into a friend instead of something more. Here’s the best way to start breaking out of this auto pilot system: be aware of the feeling in your message. Meaning, women respond to how you make them feel. You create the feeling. Is it flirty or is it friendship? You must be able to discern between the two.

Here are two text messages - one friendly and one flirty. See if you can discern between the two. The scenario: a woman texted two guys and invited them to go shopping with her. Guy #1: “Ya I would love to go shopping with you. I got to be back in two hours, are you ok with that?” Guy #2: “I would go shopping with you, but I don’t want you to be tempted to make out with me in the dressing room.” Yes, I’m sure you guessed example #2 was flirty. Now the key is to be able to send these flirty text messages at the right time. When done correctly, this is definitely an area where I see men triple or double their success with women. Remember, we don’t get on a roller coaster because it’s boring if you’re boring, women won’t respond well to you for the same reason. Keep it fun and flirty and stay away from the friendly text messages.